Positive Parenting Tips
Good parenting happens when a person creates for a child a stable, nurturing the home environment, is a positive role model, and plays a positive and active part in a child’s life. Being a parent can be daunting. Not only is your child’s health in your hands, but you are also responsible for raising them well.
There are few areas you can concentrate on while trying to bring in positive parenting.
Enhance positive interactions
Positive interactions is the vital part of positive parenting.Here are some ways through which you can enhance interactions with your little one’s
- Spend quality time with your child: If you have more than one child, make sure you spend quality time with each child separately as well as together. One -on- one time with your child will help you understand your child better and enhance your bond as well. Use this time to encourage your child in whichever activity you choose together. Do not use this time to correct or teach her anything, just concentrate on spending time with each other.
- Set clear limits: Children need structure in order to flourish. Explain the rules to your child so that she can understand why you have these rules in place and the consequences of not having them at all. Answer any question she may have patiently and as clearly as you can.
- Ask her questions and listen to the answers: Asking questions when your child is young opens lines of communication that will be helpful as she grows older. Ask questions about her daily routine and listen to her answers to initiate the conversation further.
- Practice what you preach: Children are great imitators and will pick up habits that they see in their surroundings. They also look for what is good in people around them. So, if you take the ‘do as you’re told or because I said so’ route, your child is going to be confused. She will also not trust you when you do the opposite of what you ask her to do and will pick up your habits anyway.
Refrain from unhelpful habits
As parents, you may want to give everything to your child, however, it is imperative to draw a line and make them understand that certain habits are not always helpful in getting things done. Also discouraging these habits and a few other tips may help:
- Soften reactions: Children and adolescents push buttons to get a reaction from adults. While it may seem hard, you must keep control of your irritation and annoyance and answer them firmly yet gently.
- Do not do everything: Your child needs to understand that she must learn to acquire skills and look after herself too. This will only be beneficial for her future. Once your child learns a new skill, leave it to her to do it when she needs to. It might be hard to give your child space, but that is precisely what she needs for full development.
- Stop nagging: When you give attention to any behavior either negative or positive, that behavior tends to increase. So instead of pointing out a habit that is undesirable, do not pay attention to it. Instead, praise your child when she does something positive.
- Handle parental conflict behind doors: When your child sees you and your spouse arguing or disagreeing over a parenting technique or decision, she will see it as an opening to pit one against the other to her advantage. Instead, talk about your approach with each other away from your child and make adjustments that will be to your child’s benefit.
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Helping yourself become a better parent
- Build a strong support system: Do not underestimate the value of bringing in the other adults your child interacts with. Talk to her teacher, coach, grandparents, and even your neighbors. Keeping them in the loop will help you understand how your child is developing in spheres that are outside your realm. It will also give you some space and time to do things for yourself.
- Delegate: Knowing when to delegate is half the battle. Accept offers on babysitting or get help with the chores around the house. No one person is equipped to deal with the sheer amount of work that is involved in raising a child. Get the grandparents involved in aspects that will bring joy to them as well.
- Do not forget yourself: Sometimes, in all the flurry of raising a child, we forget that we existed before the little one arrived. Take time each day with a few rituals to boost your sense of self.
Most parents are fatigued when raising their child. Spend time to re-energize yourself as this will not only remove any stress but will also make you a better parent!
- Unconditional love: One of the most important things your child will learn is that you love her unconditionally. However, it can be assumed that this is understood by your child inherently. Your child must be shown that your love for her is not based on parameters. When you confront your child about any issue, do not find faults, criticize, or blame your child which could cause her to feel under-confident. Knowing there is someone in their corner no matter what will empower your child.
- Be affectionate to your spouse in front of your child: Your child will look up to you and your spouse to know what a marriage looks like. Showing affection that is genuine towards each other will teach your child that this is how adult relationships look like
- Be consistent: There is nothing more damaging to a child than an unstable environment. If your rules and behavior change on a daily basis, your child will get confused and their misbehavior may continue. You must figure out your list of non-negotiable rules or conditions that are based on wisdom and not power. Take the time to explain these rules to your child. The chances of adhering to a set of rules that are consistent are significantly higher than ones that keep changing to suit your needs.
- Earn respect, do not demand it: Most parents assume that as parents they are worthy of respect from their child. However, your child will not think the same and will question your authority if you demand respect. Treat your child with the same respect and you’ll find her reciprocating the same.
Source – Firstcry.com Parenting forum